Lame Excuses Used to Defend Abusive Behavior By Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC 

Parental Alienation

One of the steps in healing from the abuse was to not accept the excuses her abusers used to justify their behavior. So she made a list, evaluated each individually, changed her perspective, and refused to absorb the tossed responsibly. Here is her list.

  1. “I’m sorry but…” Any apology that ends with “but” is not a real apology. Rather it is an attempt to pass blame onto the other person while not fully accepting responsibility. A true apology is expressed with remorse and doesn’t point the finger.
  2. “It’s all your fault…” Blame shifting is a common tactic abusive people use to deflect their behavior. By pointing out some minor infraction done by the other person, they justify their abusiveness.
  3. “You are so much like…” This statement is typically followed by the name of a person that either the abuser or the abused despises. The idea is that by saying the…

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Dear Texas: Praying Won’t Do You No Good


Texas Gov. Greg Abbott at a prayer breakfast where he beseeched the lord to help the state discriminate against people who want to use a public bathroom. He’s now praying for the floodwaters in Houston to recede, and it’s working because since the storm has moved on and the rains have stopped, the water level is dropping.

I watched in disbelief on Aug. 31 as Texas Gov. Greg Abbott announced on CNN that he is declaring Sunday, Sept. 3 as a “Day of Prayer in Texas.” He then introduced Vice President Mike Pence, who predictably gave a resounding “amen.” On Sept. 1, President Trump proclaimed Sept. 3 as “National Day of Prayer for the victims of Hurricane Harvey and for our National Response and Recovery Efforts.”

As a lifelong atheist who lived and worked in Houston for 9 years, I am livid. Whatever happened to the separation of church and…

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Mekong Delta during the flood season


Last update 11:07 | 10/08/2017

People in the Mekong Delta region of Vietnam are busy fishing when the flooding season has come.

On the fields of An Giang Province’s Phu Hoi Commune, nets have been laid to catch fish, crabs and snakes.

Huynh Van Tai, a local resident who has much experience in fishing during the flooding season, said that this year the flooding arrived earlier than expected so many people had not yet prepared for the work.

Bui Thi Suong in Dong Thap Province’s Hong Ngu District said that earlier, his family earned bigger income from fishing on the flooding season. She even hired dozens of workers for the work. However, in recent years, the seafood source has much decreased.

These days, she and her husband are taking advantages of the flooding season to catch some fish for sales in the market.

Some photos of the busy…

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Parental Alienation

Parents who exert too much control over their children could be causing them lifelong psychological damage, according to a study which tracked a group of people born in the 1940s until the present day.

Researchers found that people who reported their parents had intruded on their privacy in childhood or encouraged dependence were more likely to have low scores in surveys of happiness and general wellbeing carried out in their teens, their 30s, their 40s and even their 60s.

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