Addicts live in a world of fluid affinity to objective facts — a charitable way of saying we’re notorious liars when we’re using.
Addicts have to lie for many reasons: to get and consume drugs; to keep others ignorant of how low they’ve sunk and how out of control they’ve become (an act of kindness in their minds); to cover for all the things they simply can’t remember but can’t admit to not remembering because that would confirm the problem they deny; to temporarily get through any given moment and put off difficult conversations; to manipulate their loved ones into getting off their backs. Addicts will either figure out what someone else wants to hear and tell them that, or make something up which absolves themselves of all the free-floating blame that accompanies the precarious addict life. Lying is necessary to maintain denial.
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