Parental alienation in targeted parents: Investigating the diagnostic indices

Parental Alienation

The purpose of this study was to determine if psychological indices are present in parents who have been targeted for alienation by their former spouses. The reform of U.S. divorce laws and changes in the standard for determining custody of minor children are contributing factors to Parental Alienation (PA). Gardner (1998, 1999, 2001, 2002) first identified and reported Parental Alienation after seeing the same patterns of behavior among children refusing to visit their non-custodial fathers. Baker (2006) continued the research by interviewing adult children who were alienated when they were young. Childress (2011a, 2011b, 2011c, 2012, 2014, 2015), is currently working on a new paradigm using attachment theory. Studies looking at the effects of PA on targeted parents (TPs) are non-existent. This research sought to answer the research question: What are the diagnostic indices that make up PA in targeted parents? Using Gardner’s constructs as the conceptual framework for the…

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Alienation – The act of cutting off or interfering with an individual’s relationships with others.

Parental Alienation

Alienation may be absolute, where all the victim’s relationships are sabotaged equally, or it may be targeted towards a particular type of relationship. For example, the victim may be cut off from social friendships; family relationships; professional relationships; contact with members of a group, club or organization; or contact with members of a particular gender, race, social status or religion.

A personality-disordered individual may frown on their victim having social relationships outside the home. They may try to break those relationships by making up shocking or accusing stories about either the non-personality-disordered (Non-PD) individual – or about the person the Non-PD is trying to befriending. The Non-PD may face consequences or punishments as a result of making or maintaining contact with a person who is not on thean “approved” list.

In the case of chosen relationships, partners are often pressured to avoid contact with their own siblings, parents or extended…

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Coping with Alienation – What NOT to Do

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  • Don’t believe someone if they say you don’t need social contact with other people.
  • Don’t give in to pressure to stop seeing a loved one, family member or friend.
  • Don’t give in to inappropriate pressure and avoid group activities which are good for you.
  • Don’t retaliate or try to hit back at a person who is trying to sabotage your relationships.
  • Don’t kid yourself into thinking things will get better with time or that this or that will blow over – this is something you need to confront and fix quickly.
  • Don’t tell yourself that you can or must handle on your own – solitary confinement can break the most resolute of spirits.
  • Don’t sneak around or hide your social contact just to avoid conflict. This is something you need to insist on as a bottom-line issue.
  • Don’t tell yourself you have to fix the loved one in your life…

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Coping with Alienation – What TO Do:

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  • Get support – talk to a friend or therapist and describe what you are dealing with. Break the silence and get a reality check and some constructive feedback.
  • Talk to the people you are being alienated from. This takes courage – but go talk to the people whom you have been told are monsters, or who have been told what a flaky, dysfunctional, abusive person you are. Make up your own mind about them, and let them do the same.  Perhaps they are monsters, perhaps not – you may be surprised by what you learn.
  • Stand up for your needs. Confront attempts at alienation abuse with a calm, yet firm, resolve not to allow someone else’s dysfunction cause dysfunction in you. Try saying, “I care about you deeply – and I also care about my own health – this is something I need to do.”
  • Visit loved ones and healthy…

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Solutions for Covert Emotional Incest

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Your early family relationships are the most influential relationships of your life.
Confusion in those early relationships can lead to confusion throughout life.
Contact us for help resolving emotional and relationship issues.

Go to: Emotional Incest Solutions (Part 2)

Covert emotional incest begins when a family member perceives
or responds to another family member as a substitute for a partner.
We help people resolve emotional incest, and remedy other child abuse.

The symptoms of emotional incest usually include feeling special (believing that you are exceptional). Associated issues may includeaddictive relationships, passive aggressionand perfectionism.

Children raised as special do not forget it. Love may not be enough … they often  demand devotion. If their need to be special is threatened, they may feel that life is not worth living. They may seek substitutes for parents … as partners. They may fall in love with people who…

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David Cameron says world uniting to fight terrorism, holding talks with French President Hollande

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David Cameron and French President Hollande at memorial for those killed during the Paris terrorism attacks, outside the Bataclan theatre. PA wire photo

David Cameron is holding talks in Paris with French President Francois Hollande on co-operation in the fight against so-called Islamic State.

France is pushing for a stronger international coalition against IS.

The meeting is likely to help inform any new attempt by the prime minister to persuade Parliament to support RAF air strikes in Syria.

The meeting comes after IS claimed to have carried out the attacks on Paris, which left 130 people dead.

IS has also claimed recent attacks in Tunisia, Egypt, Beirut and Turkey among others.

BBC correspondent Kevin Connolly said that alongside the expected comparing of notes on security co-operation and intelligence sharing between Britain and France, the meeting will raise the question of the…

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Parents who NEED Children

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People who use children as a source of adult love are trying to fulfill their emotional needs. Such adults often usually bond to opposite sex children … a depressed father more often bonds to his youngest daughter while a lonely mother more often bonds to her oldest son. Other combinations are possible.

If aparent feels rejected or alienated, he or she might focus on a child. Sometimes a parent+child couple may treat another parent as a child, especially if the other parent is immature or ill.

Children who try to emotionally support an adult shares the adults feelings and responsibilities. Children who act like substitutes for adult partners often develop unhappy relationship habits.

I felt like I was my mother’s mother. She is immature and lonely,
and I have been there for her since my father died. That meant
no university and few boyfriends. You showed me what I…

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