The Role of Domestic Violence in Parental Alienation

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Parental alienation is the enactment of power and control over a targeted parent through a child or children by an alienating parent. To that extent, it falls within the widely accepted definitions of domestic violence and abuse (i) which are enshrined in legislation and policy around the world. However, in our experience, whilst domestic violence and abuse may be recognised as an element of the relationship between parents in dispute over children matters, the professionals who advise the courts rarely, if ever, approach the case with an understanding that a child’s rejecting position may be the extension of a pattern of domestic abuse that has been present between the parents whilst the family was together.

Around the world, domestic violence and abuse is almost exclusively set within a feminist framework which argues that it is ‘a consequence of the inequalities between men and women, rooted in patriarchal traditions that encourage…

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5 Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Head

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In popular culture, the term “narcissistic” is thrown about quite loosely, usually referring to vanity and self-absorption. This reduces narcissism to a common quality that everyone possesses and downplays the symptoms demonstrated by people with the actual disorder. While narcissism does exist on a spectrum, narcissism as a full-fledgedpersonality disorder is quite different.

read the full article by Shahida Arabi

https://selfcarehaven.wordpress.com/2014/07/21/five-powerful-ways-abusive-narcissists-get-inside-your-head/

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Denial (also called abnegation)

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Denial (also called abnegation) is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud, in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence. The subject may use:
  • simple denial – deny the reality of the unpleasant fact altogether
  • minimization – admit the fact but deny its seriousness (a combination of denial and rationalization)
  • projection – admit both the fact and seriousness but deny responsibility.

DARVO

Denial of responsibility

This form of denial involves avoiding personal responsibility by:
  • blaming – a direct statement shifting culpability and may overlap with denial of fact
  • minimizing – an attempt to make the effects or results of an action appear to be less harmful than they may actually be, or
  • justifying – when someone makes a choice and attempts to make that choice look…

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Top 7 Ways to Spot a Sociopath, Psychopath, or Narcissist

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Psychopaths and sociopaths make up a solid 4% of the population. Narcissists account for another 6%. Even if we consider the overlap between these disorders, the odds are still alarmingly high that you (or someone you know) has encountered one of these cunning social predators. This short 13-question quiz has helped thousands of people recognize the psychopath in their life.

In order to understand and identify these people, we need to first undo what television has taught us. Most psychopaths are not deranged, imprisoned murderers. Most narcissists are not over-the-top womanizers who drive a flashy car. Much more likely, they’re the coworker, friend, ex, or family member who makes your brain hurt.

Why does your brain hurt? Because psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists share a particular set of traits that will eventually make any healthy person feel crazy:

1. Superficial Charm

Don’t be fooled by this idea that charm must be…

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Parenting With a Psychopath

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People sharing children with a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist ask when the abuse will end? I wanted to share some thoughts with all the members going through court battles and parenting drama.

Everyone on this site remembers the rollercoaster of their relationship with a disordered personality. The highs, the lows, the hopes, the dreams, the prayers, the curses, the hatred, the denial. I’m sad to say that when you have to continue a relationship with a psychopath because of a child, the rollercoaster doesn’t end. It will smooth out considerably, but you will still have peaks of stress and you need to accept that and learn how to cope so that you can be the strongest you can be for your children.

The reality is we were some kind of food for psychopaths. “Were” being the operative word. Even years out, it is still difficult not to jump on the…

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Coming out of the closet – #Parental #Alienation – UPDATE

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Someone recently asked me on a forum “how did I feel after 23 years of alienation when I finally turned the corner” . (NOW 25 YEARS)

It was very subtle, no overnight “seeing the light”!!

I began to notice that I no longer felt sad when looking at photos and remembering birthdays, instead I felt quite happy and hoped everyone was Fit and well and enjoying life.

My focus seemed to switch from feeling sorry for myself and wondering and asking myself why did this happen to me to I can not change this situation and to try and come from a viewpoint of how would I feel if they lived on the other side of the world and I could not visit them.

I started thinking differently!!

Sometimes I would ask myself – would I let a friend or member of my family treat me this way? no…

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