Parental Alienation is Child Abuse So Outlaw it NOW!
Family Justice Review : My Version!
In November 2011 David Norgrove published his ill-feted Family Justice Review after 2 years of consultation. Many of us in the reforming lobby knew it would be dismissed especially when you realise Labour’s Harriet Harman and Ed Balls were the instigators.
Sadly nothing changed or was likely to since then but the suffering goes on, loving parents are being systematically excluded from their children’s lives, a childhood lost and never recovered.
At that time and having endured the nightmare of Family Court since 2004 I put my first hand experience and research into mu own version of how the Family Justice Review should have read and you can read my findings HERE and HERE but in essence I say take the financial incentives out of the system for greedy Lawyers (Solicitors) and self-serving parents so a limit of legal aid for each parent to make one presentation with the true best interest of the children as paramount including shared parenting access (visitation) for the young and a variation for when they are older and all financial matters settled. This should be binding and if a parent chooses to return matters to court or arbitration then they have to fund proceedings themselves.
ACAS is an arbitration service used by Employers and Trade unions to resolve differences so why not Family matters after all parents are not criminals why is there a need to go to Court?
In 2004 I took matters to Family Court as I knew my former partner would not be conciliatory even though our children said
“they loved their Mum and they loved their Dad so would like to see as much of each as possible even though we would be living apart!”
From March to October 2004 I fought for and achieved;
Joint residency order
Parental responsibility (A given to those on the birth certificate today)
This cost me £35,000 and I believed it would serve my children till they were of an age that they could make their own decisions on contact, probably as they reached secondary education, and although the mother sought to disrupt contact it worked OK until 19th Sept 2007 since when the mother has withheld both my children now 14 and 18.
Although a truck driver I offered a second family home equal distance to the schools allowing easy access by our children to both homes and I worked through agencies to enable my work patten to to fit all the prescribed contact times, but the toll was in time I could not sustain in effect 2 homes restrictive work and trying to have a life and in the end went bankrupt to the tune of £75,000.
At that time I learned that my former partner and the new man in her life (who has daily contact with my sons yet has not spent 30 seconds in family court) could acquire my interest in the former family home for a peppercorn rate , they sold it to their benefit of £240,000. At the time they acquired my home I was told I could have my second home repossessed, it was only early access to my private pension as I turned 50 in 2008 that prevented that, but rendered my 30 year old pension worth just £110 per month.
(The CSA do not recognise what I have done through family court from 2004 to 2008)
I am still trying to recover financially, but the CSA have put unreasonable demands on me in spite of my shared care agreement CSA and took half my salary as a dustman ,put a lean on my home which once again could be repossessed , they want a portion of my £110 per month pension, yet the hardest part in all this is that I have not had contact with my 2 sons since 19th September 2007!
The CSA act on the mother’s say so and take none of my circumstances into account, how can that be fair and reasonable or in the children’s best interest as I tried to achieve? She could win millions on the lottery and I could be on a park bench yet still they would purse me!
What would you do in my position?
This is about what a Court order is worth!